"I'm a really nice guy, ask anyone"

 Psychopath ex used to say to people 'I'm a really nice guy, ask anyone' 

'What you're describing is a common behavior among abusive individuals who use manipulation and charm to maintain a positive public image. This tactic, sometimes referred to as "image management," allows them to avoid accountability and discredit their victims if they speak out.

Here are some points to consider about this behavior:

1. Dual Persona: Abusers often cultivate a "nice guy" persona in public to mask their abusive behavior in private. This makes it harder for victims to be believed when they share their experiences.

2. Gaslighting: By insisting they are "nice" and pointing to others who can vouch for them, they may try to make you doubt your reality or feel isolated in your experiences.

3. Manipulation: Building social alliances is another way for them to exert control. If others see them as kind and friendly, it can discourage people from supporting you if you try to expose the abuse.

What Can You Do?

1. Trust Your Experience: No matter what others say, your feelings and experiences are valid. Abuse is abuse, no matter how charming someone may appear to others.

2. Seek Support: Find friends, family, or support groups who believe and validate you. There are also organizations and professionals who specialize in helping victims of abuse.

3. Document the Abuse: If it's safe, keep a record of incidents, messages, or evidence. This can be useful if you choose to pursue legal action or need to protect yourself.

4. Establish Boundaries: Minimize contact with your ex if possible, and seek legal protection (such as a restraining order) if needed.

5. Therapeutic Support: Consider therapy or counseling to process the trauma and rebuild your self-esteem.

Your safety and well-being are the priority. If you're in immediate danger or need help, reach out to a trusted individual or organization.'